What do Men Want in a Woman?

Hey, "Anonymous!"

What a great question! Though the answer can be quite subjective, I will give you the best advice I can. After all, I am the original, well educated, fun loving Man's Man! :)

1. There's no such thing as "perfect" -- body or otherwise. We all see things differently. Though I've dated my share of ladies, I believe that as we get older, we seek something different than in our younger days. That something is substance.

For instance, my first wife was a dancer for an American football team. Yes, she was what many would consider a young hottie with a body! And back then I wanted the young hard bodies. Between our divorce and my meeting my second (and current) wife, I didn't want a serious relationship. Ten-years later I met the woman with whom I'm married.

So, as I became older, and hopefully wiser, I sought a woman of substance. Not just the body. A woman with whom "I" found attractive, an intelligent conversationalist, and someone with whom I would enjoy growing older -- my best friend. My wife had two children prior to us meeting. She's a Mom. But for me, she's perfect!

I believe most men, when it really gets down to it, desire a woman who would be considered "average" if she's bright, fun to hang with, has the same or similar interests, goals, ambitions and ideals for the future over a woman simply for her body.

2. So, how does an "average" looking woman get a guy's attention? With your personality and brains! It also depends where you seek a man. Have you ever heard the song lyrics "Looking for love in all the wrong places"? Well, baby, it's true...

Trying to land a quality man in a bar probably isn't the best place. If you enjoy bicycling, join a bike club. If you enjoy reading, join a mixed gender reading club. There's also business/professional mixers and the gym.

Sure, many men simply want to get laid and that's it. But just because you wrote me, tells me you're bright enough to know if that's the case. And I can tell you're bright enough to dazzle some man with your brains. Since we do not know each other, I do not know your personality, but I do know you can smile! :)

If you're happy with yourself that confidence will shine through in your personality. If you're not, begin a workout program, feel better and gain the confidence to walk into a room, smile at anyone you desire, and say "Hello, I'm... What's your name?"

Remember, do not give up on love and romance. Not all men want, as you stated, "women with perfect bodies."

Play fair. Do not pass up a man some may consider "average" if he treats you well and the two of you get along well. The door does swing both ways.

Now go out, have some fun, enjoy life and meet a quality man!

Sincerely,