Want Better Sex? Get Married!

by Lisa Keagan
(Miami)

Reader Post: 'Want better sex? Get married! I'm serious! The dating scene with its one-night stands just doesn't cut it for me - I'm happily married to a terriffic man and sex with him is a dream come true!

That's not to say that marriage is an easy road. We've had our bumps, but I think if both partners are committed to improve their relationship skills, especially dealing with conflict, the benefits of being in a committed relationship are priceless.

A few things that I recommend for better sex:

Make time to talk about stuff that matters to both of you, your sex life included. Even ten minutes a day of talking about something meaningful helps you both to stay in tune with each other. Share fantasies, wants and needs.

Fight clean. Too many arguments deteriorate into just trying to prove that you're right at all costs. Well, the costs are often happiness and peace. More importantly, it erodes the intimacy that is needed to feel really connected during sex. It's just not worth it!

Take responsibility. If there's something in your relationship or sex life that you're not happy with, be willing to take a good, hard look at the part that you're playing in the dynamic and be willing to make the necessary changes yourself. It's also important to take responsibility to create the kind of sex life that you really want rather than just waiting for your partner to make it happen.

Marriage isn't a 24/7 party - it involves a lot of hard work, but a healthy union really is the recipe for better sex!'

Lisa Keagan
Sex Coach