Unconditional Self Acceptance
Unconditional self acceptance sounds like a tall order. Impossible to achieve. Yet it's not that hard if you know the inner mechanics of how your mind works and how to deal with your self-judgmental thoughts. This is a huge issue because it is quite simply impossible to sustain a satisfying, fulfilling sex life if you have very low body esteem. Rewarding sex requires a degree of comfort with nakedness and a willingness to show and share your body with your partner in its most vulnerable state. Yet so many women dislike their own bodies or parts there-of. Why is this so? Because we judge ourselves so harshly. In offering a solution to the problem of low body esteem, I suggest a revolution in your thought process. Your body esteem (just like your self esteem) will always be fragile, because it depends on your thoughts about your body at any given moment. If you think you look fat, or ugly, or old on a particular day, your body esteem will be low. If you’ve just had a hair cut or lost a few kilo’s or tried on some new make-up, you’ll think you look okay and your body esteem will rise – just to plummet again the next day when you get out of bed and are confronted with a look at your early-morning-self in the mirror. But what would happen if you replaced the quest for high body esteem with plain, unadorned, unconditional self-acceptance? It’s not that difficult, you know. Just think about it for a second: What would happen if you made a decision to let go of the struggle in your own mind? The truth is that there are very few women on the planet who have perfect bodies. Chances are that you’re not one of them. I know I’m not. But I also know that the more I obsess about my body flaws, the more unattractive I become to my partner.
Body Acceptance TipsThe following unconditional self acceptance tips have been designed to help you look at our body in an entirely different way. Think about it this way: Great body esteem = great passion between the sheets! You can't possibly let yourself go and fully focus on pleasure if you're hung up on how your body looks!If you're serious about making a change, choose one of these tips to work on for a week before moving on to the next. I suggest you write your 'unconditional self acceptance tip for the week' on a piece of card and carry it with you. Read it when you wake up in the morning and before you go to bed at night. Find ways to incorporate each in your every-day life:
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