The Key to Body Love

by Tamara
(San Jose)

Reader Post: 'I can honestly say that I never embraced my own sexuality until I discovered the key to body love.

To me, the answer to body love is plain and simple letting go of the need to have a different body. For much of my life I would have given anything to have bigger boobs, a smaller waist, longer legs, stronger nails, blue eyes instead of brown, curlier hair... well, the list goes on and I'm sure you get the picture.

I used to feel that nobody can possibly find my body attractive because it's so far removed from the images of celebrities and what we perceive to be the 'ideal body shape.' In intimate relationships I hid my body as best I could and never felt comfortable with having sex during the day or with the lights on at night. Needless to say, I was too busy avoiding sex positions that would show off my undesirable body parts to enjoy the experience!

A turning point for me was having a lover for a brief, blissful encounter on a cruise ship, who absolutely adored my body. Not just the good parts either, mind you. He would kiss and comment on every inch of me - and he just had a way of making me open up to him, relax and enjoy the sensual experiences of what my body had to offer, rather than how my body looked.

I wish I could say it was instant body love, but it wasn't. I never saw this man again after the cruise, but our time together made me realize how important it is to embrace the whole idea of self acceptance and I slowly started to risk more, and show more of myself, in other relationships too.

I wish every woman could meet someone who gave them the gift of body love sometime in their lives. It's been such a blessing to me!'

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