The Key to Better Sex

by Charlie
(Fiji)

Reader Post: 'I am so excited. I think I've discovered the key to better sex! For as long as I've had sex I always thought the secret to great sex is to please my lover. So I would do whatever I could to turn them on and to make it a good experience for them. This often worked for me too because it's nice to see the person you're with getting super aroused. However, if I'm honest, it sometimes felt a bit like hard work. So much so that I (gasp!) started faking orgasms just to put an end to so much work!

Then I started dating my new boyfriend and boy oh boy, have things changed! He couldn't care less about the things I do to please him - he just wants to see ME aroused. He wants me to do the things that pleasure ME... and do it with wild abandon - and that's what turns HIM on!

So now I've started treating him as a delicious sex object to take MY pleasure from and suddenly my passion quotient is off the scales! I can't believe how one simple change in how I view pleasure in the bedroom makes such an enormous difference!

My advice to you is to grow your confidence, trust yourself and TAKE as much as you GIVE. That's what I call win-win!'