The Impact of Body Image on Orgasm

by Kitty
(Perth)

Reader Post: 'I have huge anxieties surrounding orgasm, but it really starts and ends with my body image that absolutely sucks. I don't have good orgasms because I'm too focused on my fat thighs and stomach - and what my partner thinks when he looks down at me when we're making love.

I hate making love with the lights on or during the day, because I don't want him to see my cellulite. I also refuse to get into certain sex positions that he really likes, like doggie style, because I can't bear the thought of him looking at my butt. I just can't imagine how he can be turned on by me when I hate my own body so much.

To make it worse, my partner is really into porn - and I'm always thinking how badly I compare to those gorgeous porn stars. For this reason I hate porn and I hate him watching porn, but there's not much I can do to stop him. He just gets angry when I try to discuss it with him.

I'm not hugely overweight and I do try to look after myself, but I'm just one of those people with 'problem areas' and I'll never have a great-looking body.

I would love to feel proud of my body and relax enough to have great orgasm, but I don't think that will ever happen.'

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