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Sex Phobia: A Fear of Making Love

A sex phobia is more than passing feelings of anxiety about making love. It refers to an intense fear of sex and things sex related, and interferes badly with your every day life.

People who suffer from this kind of phobia experience intense anxiety, terror or disgust at the thought of sexual interaction. Some people can tolerate kissing and hugging, while others avoid all intimate contact.

Sometimes a sex phobia is the result of a history of sexual abuse or other sexual trauma. Others with an aversion to sex may have learned negative sexual attitudes, heard scary stories, or been exposed to frightening images relating to sex. These fears become intrusive and prevent them from enjoying a healthy, happy sex life.

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Treatment of Sex Phobia

It is important to know that a extreme sexual anxieties and aversion can be treated. Fear and anxiety are normal, natural emotions and it is possible to manage the ‘fight’ or ‘flight’ response that occurs when anxiety is triggered. Once you learn how to deal with your thoughts and feelings in a different way, a pleasurable and fulfilling sex life is possible.

You may benefit from treatment if the following occurs:

• Your sex phobia interferes with you living a normal life;
• You are unable to cope with the phobia yourself;
• Your avoidance of sexual objects and situations are becoming extreme;
• You suffer from a variety of symptoms such as sweating or trembling when thinking about or confronted with anything to do with sex.

Sex Life Solutions

There are many useful solutions to treat sex problems and in many cases a combination of physical and psychological treatment is the best course of action. Treatment of all sexual problems should always occur in a holistic way; therefore, check your diet, move your body more, and generally find a good balance between work and play. It is very important that you speak to your physician if you have any sexual concerns.

1. Start by getting your facts right. Read up about healthy sexuality and sexual techniques. The more you know, the less anxious you will feel about what can be expected during intercourse. Reading about sex also helps to desensitize you somewhat, which is an important step in the treatment of all phobias.

2. Work on loving your own body. With body love I mean both self acceptance and getting to know your own body through masturbation practices. It is just about impossible to enjoy sex with a partner if you hate your own body or if you don’t know it all that well. If the mere thought of solo sex makes you feel anxious, ask a sex coach or therapist to help you work through a body acceptance program.

3. Treatment of a sex phobia may include gradual exposure to feared situations, as well as learning to deal with your thoughts and emotions surrounding sexuality. This involves mastering essential sexual strategies such as positive self-talk about sex, fear-free solo sex and lastly, fear-free intercourse.

Extreme anxiety and aversion can be overcome through practice. It is often said that your most important sex organ is your brain – and this is where change needs to occur.

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