Sex Diaries: My Wife is Boring in Bed

by Mark

Reader Post: 'My wife is boring in bed. I always have to initiate sex and then she just lays there and lets me do all the work. It's as if she can't wait for me to finish so she can get back to her own life. It has been like this for twelve years - and it's become steadily worse after the birth of each of our children.

I tried everything I could think of. Apparently romance is supposed to work, so I bought flowers and chocolates. Tried to light candles and play her favourite music. Tried to offer massages and prepared her bubble baths.

I tried to introduce sex toys, but she doesn't like them. In fact, every time I try to teach her something or want to try something different, she gets a little upset.

I suggested that she go see a therapist and that caused a huge fight. She says there's nothing wrong with her - men and women just feel differently about sex. I know that's true - but I don't think ALL women feel the way she does about it. Surely this website is proof of it?

Sometimes I think she wouldn't even care if I cheated. So far I've been willing myself to hold off but I have to admit I've considered using an escort service just to get some relief.

I've checked out some online dating services - but then I feel too guilty to actually put up a profile. I don't want to go through a divorce or lose my children for doing something stupid, but this is no way to live.

I'm unhappy and stressed out. I feel unloved. I'm angry and miserable all the time. I just don't know what to do anymore. Something tells me she's never going to change, so if I want to stay with her - this is going to be my life!

I would give a lot just to feel WANTED again!'