Sex Diaries: Compatible Libido

by Lily

Reader Post in Sex Diaries: 'It seems that my husband and I are one of the relatively few lucky couples who have compatible libido and a healthy, satisfying sex life in midlife. I don't express my gratitude lightly, because I was married once before and incompatible libido and differing sexual expectations and needs were huge contributing factors to our break-up. There is nothing worse than to be forced into intercourse when your husband is craving release and you just want to go to sleep!

It also helps, of course, if you and your partner have genuine sexual chemistry. I never understood before how vital this is for a long-lasting, happy union. I love my husband's body - and he loves mine (cellulite and all!).

We make love about once or twice a week, which is perfect for both of us. Sometimes I initiate and sometimes he does. Our favourite time of the day for being intimate is mornings - especially those long, lazy Sunday mornings when nothing drives you out of bed and you can just enjoy the closeness. )That said, I know it's a bit different when your children are still young and there is little room for privacy because their needs come first!)

Sometimes I like to surprise my husband when he comes home from work and I'd be waiting for him on the bed, dressed up in lingerie and ready to play. He loves to buy me things that he wants to see me wear when we make love. It really gets me in the mood and the sexier I feel, the more I can give myself to him whole-heartedly, which pleases him immensely.

I believe sex should be fun - it's there for our pleasure, so we might as well give it an honorary role in our relationships. If the sex is good, a lot of other things just naturally fall into place too...

I do understand that not all couples are blessed with compatible libido, but if not, I suggest you seek professional help. It's really worth making it work.'

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