Romance Compatibility - How do and your Partner Measure Up?

Have you ever wondered about you and your partner's romance compatibility? Research shows that there are basically five different sexual styles that are linked to one's dominant personality traits:

1. Open Lovers

2. Conscientious Lovers

3. Agreeable Lovers

4. Extroverted Lovers

5. Neurotic Lovers

Test you and your partner's romance compatibility by answering the following questions:

Open in Romance?

Ask yourself:

Do you like the idea of trying out unusual sex toys during love making?

Is sexual variety an important element in having fun?

Do you love to be spontaneous when it comes to romance?

Do you have an active fantasy life?

Have you regretted some of your more impulsive romantic or sexual encounters the morning after?

Open lovers

Open people are creative, curious and imaginative. They like to challenge conventions when it comes to romance and sex. They love to be spontaneous when it comes to love and thrive on adrenalin. They’re also uninhibited about their bodies and are often great dancers. One of their dominant thought patterns seems to be: ‘I don’t know what I like and I like what I don’t know.’

If you have strong open personality traits, your sex life will most likely be mind-blowing, but deep intimacy is not your thing. Commitment scares you; you get easily bored and are often accused of being unreliable.

Your biggest romance challenge is a partner who is conventional, traditional and sticks to what they know, such as a conscientious personality type. That’s not to say that it will never work between you. You will make conscientious and neurotic partners forget their stress and worries, while conscientious lovers’ self-sufficiency will impress you.

Two open partners could have a great life together, as long as neither feel trapped by domesticity.

Conscientious in Romance?

Ask yourself:

Do you prefer to schedule romantic activities rather than wait for it to spontaneously happen?

Is hygiene a particularly important consideration during sex?

Do you have a few preferred sex positions that you wish to stick to?

Is it important for you to feel emotionally safe in your relationship?

Do you have the need to stay in control during sex?

Conscientious lovers

Highly conscientious people tend to be thorough, dependable and task-focused. They are good planners and like to conform. They will never let you down and are protective in love. Their romantic and sex lives tend to be calm and controlled. They’re not particularly demonstrative but they feel deeply. Once they commit to you, they’re yours for life. Conscientious people can be quite stuck in their ways, so spring surprises on them gently – in and out of the bedroom.

If you have a conscientious personality in terms of romance compatibility, you will find open lovers a challenge due to their need to be spontaneous and try new things. You will probably feel most comfortable with an agreeable partner, but if you’re willing to unlock the door for new experiences with open lovers, you can have a lot of fun. Two conscientious lovers could also have a great relationship due to having the same values and wanting the same things out of life.

Agreeable in Romance?

Ask yourself:

Do you tend to follow your partner’s lead during love-making?

Is your partner’s pleasure more important than your own?

Do you sometimes get bullied into partaking in sexual activities that you don’t feel all that comfortable with?

Do you usually wait for your partner to initiate sex?

Agreeable lovers

An agreeable personality type is helpful, selfless, trusting, kind and considerate.

So what about your romance compatibility? You would be a good match for conscientious and neurotic lovers, and possibly find open partners most challenging due to your tendency to deny your own needs. Be careful pairing up with extroverts, as their propensity to assert themselves may leave you feeling vulnerable.

Extroverted in Romance?

Ask yourself:

Do you have multiple sexual partners?

Are you turned on by the idea of threesome’s and orgies?

Would you describe yourself as excitement-seeking when it comes to romance and sex?

Do you like to make love in unusual places?

Extroverted lovers

Extroverts are talkative, energetic, assertive and sociable. Their greatest strength is their people skills and they love to be at the heart of every party.

Extroverts pair up well with open romance personalities in terms of romance compatibility, due to the courage both types show to step out of their comfort zones. Both personalities are intent on living a big, surprising life. Your biggest challenge would be a conscientious companion who likes to stick with routines that make them feel safe. Neurotic personality types would make you feel frustrated and cramp your style.

Neurotic in Romance?

Ask yourself:

Do you find it difficult to relax during sex?

Are you particularly self-conscious about your body?

Does your mood often impact on your relationship and sex life?

Neurotic lovers

People who are classified as neurotic can be very romantic and have the capacity to take you to a deep place of intimacy. Their downfall is that they tend to be anxious, easily upset, moody and self-conscious. If you humiliate, belittle or play games with a neurotic, they will not easily recover from being treated so poorly.

As a neurotic, in terms of romance compatibility, you may find joining up with open lovers difficult as their need to experiment may lead to feelings of anxiety. Extroverts may also be too much to bear. Your best love-match is an agreeable type to build up your trust and make you feel safe and secure.

And the ideal romance style is....?

Leaning towards openness in romance isn't a bad idea either. Open yourself up to a bit of adventure... It's just more fun!

If you enjoyed this article on romance compatibility, make sure to check out my other romance ideas pages too.

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