Relationship Skills
Good relationship skills are one of the keys to happiness. I love this quote by Stephanie Dowrick: 'There is no greater treasure on earth than a deeply shared experience of love.'
Better Relationships, Better SexIf having better sex is on your list of most-wanted-things, it all starts and ends with how good your relationship skills are. Chemistry dies in a relationship when you and your partner stop making the effort to make each other feel special and important on a day to day basis.What most women want, are quality intimate relationships, because it makes them feel good about themselves too. Stephanie Dowrick explains it eloquently in her book, The Almost Perfect Marriage: One-minute relationship skills: 'When you fall in love, you see and experience the perfection in the other person. You also experience your own best self. That vision of perfection is deeply sacred. As life becomes more complicated, maintain that vision. Let it live alongside your more complex knowledge of who you both are.'
Casual SexThat’s not to say that it’s impossible to enjoy casual sex. Many women do. There’s something to be said for that fabulous erotic feeling of having sex with someone you’ve never done it with before.But there’s a difference between casual and careless, indifferent or slapdash. Even with casual sex, you would probably prefer it executed in a way that doesn’t lower your self-respect. When you choose to have sex with someone, you enter into a relationship with that person, no matter how fleetingly. The key is choosing well.
Monogamous SexIn a monogamous relationship, better sex requires that both you and your partner choose to (groan!) work at it or, at the very least, put some creative thought into it. The good news is that sex can get better as the years roll on. After all, you both know your way around each other’s bodies and you understand each other’s sexual needs.
Variety is the Name of the GameMonogamy and monotony don’t have to go together like peaches and cream, as Tracey Cox says in her excellent book, Hot Sex: How to do it. You make love to the same person for the rest of your life in a million different ways, places and situations:‘Naked, half-naked or clothed; clothes ripped off or stripped off. Sex can be slow and sensual, raw and wicked, intense and erotic; a two-hour marathon or a two-minute quickie up against the fridge. Dinner outside, dinner in – with dessert eaten off each other’s bodies.’ Mmmm. Now that sounds better than the old in-out, in-out that we tend to get so bored of, doesn’t it? Keep Romance AliveOf course relationships can’t survive on sex alone. In fact, it’s just about impossible to have a great sex life if your relationship has turned sour. So what to do?You remember true romance don’t you? Those little things you did at the start of your relationship that meant so much, like writing love notes and surprising each other with thoughtful gifts. If you love receiving flowers, why not return the favour? Or if that’s not quite his style, send him a bottle of red wine with a note that explains in great detail what he did to deserve such a treat! Keep browsing, and you'll find plenty of romance ideas and a special romance compatibility test for your viewing pleasure as well. Unfortunately candles, roses and wine aren’t quite enough. You also have to learn to deal with conflict in constructive ways. Conflict and Better SexSo what does conflict have to do with sex? Anyone knows that make-up sex can be particularly passionate. That may be spot on, but it’s also true that long-lasting conflict erodes relationships in the most devastating way. Make sure to read and re-read the section on conflict busters and just in case you're wondering, I have an article on reasons men have affairs.Master these relationship skills and intimacy between you and your partner is guaranteed to soar! Lastly, visit our improve your life page for ideas on putting it all together! What an exciting journey we're all on! (From Relationship Skills) (Back to Better Sex Home Page)
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