Reasons Men have Affairs
Working as a sex therapist, women often ask me the reasons men have affairs. This is not to say that women don't have affairs; in fact, an alarming percentage of women in committed relationships admit to having entered into extramarital affairs at some point in their relationship. For the purpose of this article however, the focus is on reasons men have affairs. Here are some reasons for infedility that men have shared with me:
Reasons for Male Infidelity-To escape boredom that sometimes settles into a long time relationship;-To get relief from stressful circumstances in his life; -To have needs fulfilled that aren't being met in his primary relationship; -To generate some excitement by doing something risky; -To get sexual release; -To have sexual desires being taken care of whilst staying in a marriage for the sake of the children; -To attempt to cure depression; -To prove to himself that he is still desirable; -To seek revenge on a partner he is angry at.
Is it Worth it?A lot of these reasons seem to be valid - at least from a man's perspective. An affair is often about not getting his sexual needs met and sometimes--out of desperation--a man goes outside his marriage.No matter what the reasons are, an extramarital affair is never a good decision. Why isn't that recognized at the time someone makes the decision to enter into an extramarital affair? Who knows? The mind isn't all that good at rational decision making when one is under duress. No matter what the reasons men have affairs, the consequences are devastating. The effects of a discovered affair impacts not only the marriage, but sometimes across generations. I can't begin to count how many clients have told me how shattered they were when one parent cheated on another.
Prevention is Better than CureIf you recognize any of the reasons men have affairs in your own relationship, be sure to get professional help. When it comes to infedility, prevention is better than cure! Remember, relationships ebb and flow and the sex in a long term relationship ebbs and flows. It doesn't have to be a tap that ever goes to the fully 'off' position. With a little bit of knowledge and motivation, sex can remain exciting in any relationship.Other solutions include getting a physical check-up and dealing with stress and upset in appropriate ways; communicating needs, and challenging negative messages. Problems in the relationship should be faced together rather than burying your heads in the sand. If you enjoyed reading about why men cheat, you may also find the following articles interesting:
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