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Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Question: How can I stop shying away from men?

Dear Glenn,

My problem is that I have never been in a relationship and consequently never had sex with a man. I am beautiful and attractive but my self esteem is really low because I've got small boobs (cap A) so I shy away from men because I know men love big-n-sexy boobs which I don't have. In addition to my small boobs, my left leg is slightly shorter than the right one, making one hip look bigger that the other. I have always thought that big boobs and a nice butt turn men on. Is there a way I can be helped?

Celine

Glenn's Answer:

Dear Celine,

Of course there's a way for you to be helped, and because I am the original, well educated, fun loving Man's Man, and since you asked, I will offer my advice.

First of all, you didn't need to tell me about your low self esteem, it's apparent. However, through counseling, with the right doctor or therapist, you can build your self esteem. And the reason I KNOW you will be successful in building your self esteem to the point of loving yourself the way you should is because you wrote the following: "I am beautiful and attractive." Celine, these are your words. Bravo!

Let's address your suspicions and set the record straight...
1. Not ALL men love "big-n-sexy boobs." I'm sure you've seen both men and women whom you would classify a "sexy, beautiful, attractive, etc." Well, let it be know that what one person finds sexy, another may not. You cannot lump everyone into one group. It's not fair to them or to yourself.

2. There's no such thing a perfection. It's all subjective. So one leg is shorter than the other and your breasts are not the size you "think" they should be. So what! Your choices are to either seek counseling to understand that beauty truly does come from within, and or seek plastic surgery if you feel strongly enough about it.

Bottom-line, Celine, we all see things differently, and perhaps some men will not find you attractive to the point of wanting to know you as a person and the beauty that lies within - just like you may see some men and not find them physically attractive. But once you do put yourself out there to actually meet people and get to know them for who they are, they too will be getting to know you.

I wish you great happiness from within.

Sincerely,

-Glenn

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