Orgasms: My Guilty Secret

by Anonymous
(London)

Reader Post: 'When it comes to orgasms, I have a guilty secret: I enjoy it much more during masturbation than during sex with my husband.

I've been married for ages and in the beginning the sex was good, but as time went by it has just become too much of a 'chore' for me. It's not that I don't want to please my husband - I do! - but anyone that says sex isn't as much hard work as it is pleasure, is lying to themselves!

When I have sex with my husband it often takes me ages to climax. He likes to experiment with different positions - and often he changes from one to another just as I'm starting to enjoy myself. To be honest, my clitoris also doesn't really get the attention it deserves - my husband can go straight from zero to intercourse. He doesn't seem to need any foreplay at all.

I can't wait for my husband to go to work because then I can indulge myself with one of my vibrators. I don't have to worry about making someone else climax or how my body looks or how long it takes to get me there. I can use any fantasy I like to help me have a great orgasm - or none at all... It's pure heaven.

So yes, I know I'm selfish but it works for me.'