Orgasm or Massage?

by Mona
(Dublin)

Reader Post: 'Am I the only woman who prefers a massage to an orgasm any time of the day, any day of the week?'

The way I see it, an orgasm feels great, but it's over in only a few seconds and they're kind of a dime a dozen. I can bring myself to orgasm in only a few minutes using a vibrator, and it doesn't take all that long with my partner either. However, the real pleasure for me is getting there - and no path feels better to me than a long, drawn-out, full body massage. That feels so good, in fact, that I don't even have to climax - for me the journey is truly better than the destination.

My partner and I often joke that a massage is to me what a blow job is to him. He would forego any sexual activity in favour of a good blow job. I feel exactly the same about a massage.

The sad thing is that my partner rarely takes the time to please me in this way... I think it's just too much effort for him - and I don't think he really understands how much I need this kind of loving attention as foreplay. On the other hand, when it does happen now and then - even just a quick and dirty shoulder massage, it takes me straight to heaven!'