On Ending a Relationship

by Anonymous

The decision to end a relationship is surely one of the hardest on the planet. Sometimes your head and heart just do not speak the same language. This is very much what happened to me. I have been madly in love with my partner for as long as I can remember. We were childhood sweethearts. Unfortunately he went through a series of traumas over the years, including the suicide of his brother.

He started drinking more and more and these days I have no doubt that he is an alcoholic. When he is under the influence, he becomes a different person: miserable and abusive. When he is sober, he is the same man I fell in love with and still love with all my heart.

Every time he gets drunk and hurts me emotionally (and sometimes even physically), I decide that this can not go on and that I have to go. Every day after the night before, I find reasons to stay.

I still haven't made up my mind, but I do know that we can't go on this way much longer. This article has helped me realize that I have to make the decision to follow my gut instinct, which is that I need to go in order to protect myself from further pain.

Thank you very much, Dr. Mia, for your sensible advice.