Mutual Masturbation - She Refuses

by Paul
(Brighton, Mi USA)

Married 30 yrs, both now in our 50's, wonderful sex life for most of our marriage, but as we get older, our sex desires and drives are changing. I have learned that she now more enjoys external stimulation than penetration. Oral and her 'reverse rubbing' (I lie on my back while she lies face down at the foot of the bed and grinds me) her vagina on my member are the two most effective orgasm generators. . and this is just fine with me.

I occasionally masturbate alone, very comfortable with my sexuality, but she denies or refuses to admit that she has or does . .. it just is not a discussion topic ! ! !

I very much would like to share a mutual masturbation event with her, I'd even go first . . but I very much want to watch her self pleasure. BTW, it is one of men's top fantasies (but I'm sure I don't have to tell you that !) She tolerates vibrators, and orgasms about 1/2 the time they are used .. I can only imagine that if she managed the toy her frequency would increase !

I've approached the shared pleasure with her, but she flat out refuses ! I once took a cell phone shot of my erected member and sent it to her, starting out she was not happy, but on re-sends, every once in a while she asks if I ran it off . .. I keep telling her she's going to have to be in the house and ask . .and I gladly would, but only if she reciprocated.

Any advice ? ? ? Greatly appreciated ! ! !