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Low Sex Drive in Women

By far one of the most disheartening and significant problems in female sexuality is low sex drive in women. It's difficult to even describe the despair that so many women feel who love their partners dearly but just can't muster up enough enthusiasm to even pretend that they're looking forward to having sex.

I'd Rather Eat Chocolate

I've just finished reading the witty, brave, and debate-sparking book, 'I'd Rather Eat Chocolate' by Joan Sewell, which made me reflect on low female sex drive anew.

Sewell's account of what it means to try and make a marriage work when there is a high discrepancy in partners' libido is food for thought indeed. She describes her journey of searching for a libido boost and how the most well-meant expert advice just doesn't work.

Her conclusion is that there is a dramatic biological difference in the sex drive of women and men, and rather than feeling guilty for not having an equally high appetite for sex, these differences should be acknowledged and respected.

Sewell and her husband, Kip, ultimately found a way to negotiate the differences in their sex drive through open and honest communication and working out what she was willing to do that was comfortable for her and still met his needs. For example, she was willing to engage in fellatio, but she stopped worrying about having to do it until he reached orgasm. If it became uncomfortable for her she was allowed to stop. She was also willing to provide visual stimulation for her husband by wearing sexy lingerie and sometimes doing an erotic dance for him, which often culminated in him masturbating to orgasm.

Sewell worked out for herself that low sex drive in women is not necessarily because of childhood socialization, or earlier sexual wounds, or low self-esteem, or anything else than women in general just being wired for sex differently than men. These factors can all contribute to low sex drive in women, but ultimately women need not feel there is something 'wrong' with them if their sexual needs don't match their sexual partner's appetite for sex. Without the guilt and self-recrimination women can take responsibility for for their own drive and pleasure, and a compromise can be found.

That is surely a liberating thought!

Better Sex Recommendation

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~ Sonia, Zilzie

* Be your Own Sex Therapist

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