Infidelity... I just found out!

by Rianna
(Durban)

Reader Post: 'I just stumbled across this page on infidelity... or maybe I was drawn to it because I just found out that my husband has been having an extramarital affair. I'm totally numb... I don't even know what I'm feeling!

I always used to say there's no way I would tolerate an affair, no way I could forgive and he would be out on the street if he did something like this... and now that it's happened and I have to make a decision, I'm not so sure of anything any more.

He said she seduced him and he only slept with her a few times and it's over, but how can I ever believe him again? How can I ever trust again? On the other hand, what about the life we've built? Our children? I'm not ready to be a single mum of three young kids and how would I pay the bills? I haven't worked in 8 years since my oldest child was born?

I think I've been a good wife. I don't understand how someone can do this. Is it really worth the cheap thrill? Is the sex really that good? I'm trying to understand but my mind is just going round and round in circles and I'm feeling sick just thinking about it.

Who is this person that I married and trusted?'