I'm having an Online Affair...

by Star
(Melbourne)

Reader Post: 'I am having an online affair and I really need help. I met a man on a social networking site six months ago and we have become very close. He was going through a separation at the time and in the beginning I was just there to act as a soundboard for him and to support him. However, as time went by, our emails became more intimate and he started calling me every day when my husband is at work.

I really developed feelings for him and I know he feels the same about me. However, he lives in another country and doesn't have the financial means to relocate. I can't even imagine giving up my whole life here to be with him - even while I want to in my dreams. Realistically though, it's just not an option.

I've withdrawn from my husband and I know it isn't fair to him. He is a good man, a good father, and a good provider. He doesn't deserve to be cheated on. Yet I just can't give up my affair. It brings so much joy into my life - in fact, sometimes it feels as if I'm addicted to those calls and emails. My whole life centres around them.

I know I'm selfish and there are many out there who would condemn me for what I'm doing. Sometimes I hate myself too!

I just can't give my online affair up... It would break my heart. Yet I dont' want to hurt anyone else either. How did I ever get myself into this sitation?'