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How to Make Sex Better with Mindfulness
Wondering how to make sex better? Well, you are not alone. It's one of those questions that floats into one's consciousness now and then, especially on the off-days when sex seems to get a little stale.
Answering it is difficult though, since sex is completely subjective. How to make sex better will inevitably mean something different for you than it does for me, but more importantly, it will most likely mean something different for your partner.
So, in an effort to remain objective, let's look at a few common themes:
How to have Better Sex
1. There is something to be said for quickies, but even more for a conscious effort to slow down. What I'm talking about here is the connection between sex and mindfulness, where you give your lover the gift of your full attention. When you make them the center of your attention, you bring an element of caring to the moment that makes for a wonderful sexual experience.
Here are a few ways to connect deeply when making love:
* Notice your partner's facial expressions and how it mirrors their emotions;
* Notice every nuance of their body language, how they move, open up, or draw away;
* Open up all your senses: how does your lover smell, taste, feel under your fingertips?
* Also notice what you are feeling in your own body.
2. Find a good balance between pleasing your lover and pleasing yourself. If your lover's idea of how to make sex better involves wild sex games, and your idea of how to have better sex is candles and rose petals on silk sheets, make sure to incorporate both in your sex life. That way you take care of the need for variety too.
3. Open up emotionally to form a true intimate connection. To open up emotionally is to take a risk: you may be criticized or judged, and that can be excruciatingly painful. Still, it is the only way to build a closer, deeper, and more passionate sexual relationship.
4. Catch them doing it right. Compliment your partner on their love making skills. Expressing your appreciation to your partner will also add to your own sense of fulfillment.
If you care deeply about your partner, surely you would like to cultivate better sex for a lifetime. If so, mindless sex without true connection just won't cut it.
Take your time, focus, explore... and have fun in the process.
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