How to be a Good Lover

There is no one-size-fits-all recipe, but the following better sex tips will go a long way to help you be a better lover.

Sex Tips to be a Better Lover

2. Great lovers love sex. They bask in it, they luxuriate in it. If she knows he relishes oral sex, it helps her to relax into it, which triples the satisfaction. The same for him – it’s impossible to really enjoy being pleasured if you’re concerned about whether your lover likes your taste or your odour. Telling your partner how much you love sex is a gift..

4. Great lovers let their partners know that they are irresistible. Nothing is more effective to revive a sex life gone stale than making each other feel attractive. Saying it is one thing, but it’s even more effective when you show your partner how much pleasure you take in their body. Great lovers delight in each other.

5. Great lovers understand that defining great sex is personal and they’re able to celebrate their differences. There is no one-way-is-the-right-way, or even worse, my-way-is-the-only-way. For one person amazing sex might mean being able to give and receive white-hot orgasms, for another it might be about adventure and play, and for yet another it might be about feeling amazingly close and connected while wrapped in a lover's arms. Instead of assuming, great lovers communicate: they ask what feels great and tells the same. Even if couples have been in a relationship for years, they can still surprise each other and learn new things about each other.

6. The best lovers know that sensational sex is not only about intercourse. The act of sex is only one part of making love. There is a smorgasbord of pleasurable activities available. Great lovers understand the dance of seduction, and that exploration is essential: playing out fantasies, using sex toys, climaxing in different ways. It’s important to give each other permission to do whatever is desired in any given situation. If she sometimes prefers a vibrator to his tongue, that’s okay. If he sometimes wants a hand-job rather than penetration, why not?

7. Great lovers never, ever compare their partners to anyone else, and especially not to former relationships. It's easy, when referencing other liaisons - good or bad - to stray mentally, emotionally, or physically from the one you're in. Each new relationship brings its own responsibility to make it the most satisfying it can be.

8. Great lovers aren’t afraid to show their vulnerable side. This goes to the heart of being willing to trust someone you love with your particular weaknesses. The more open you are to sharing your softer side, the more protective your partner will become. Why? Because that’s just what love does.

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