Faking Orgasms

by Cea
(East London, S.A.)

Reader Post: 'Okay, I'll admit it... i've been faking orgasms for a long, long time. It's like I'm caught up in a cycle that I just can't get out of and I hate it, but I don't know how to stop. My husband will never forgive me if I tell him now so essentially I'm stuck.

Faking orgasms all started years ago at a time when I had young children, I was working full time and frankly, I was just too tired for sex. My husband has a high sex drive and insists on sex almost every day and really, I just couldn't keep up. He also believes very strongly that sex is not over until I reach an orgasm. So I started faking just to get it over with.

I don't mean to say that I never enjoy sex - I love the closeness, but often it just takes too long for me. Maybe I haven't had the patience to really listen to my body either. I can reach orgasm fairly quickly if I masturbate with a vibrator, which I sometimes do when I'm away from my husband for long periods of time (he travels for work) and I need the stress relief.

I wish I never started faking orgasms, but then again, I also know I've saved us a lot of conflict - even though I did it through not being totally honest.'