The Power of Erotic Journaling
Surprise yourselfIf you want to get the most out of the better sex journey, I strongly recommend Erotic Journaling or keeping a sex diary. Buy a notebook to explore your own sexuality just like you would use a personal development journal. In my opinion, there are no better tools than writing and drawing to discover your deepest values, beliefs and challenges than through this process. Erotic journaling is about embracing new possibilities. It’s about rediscovering your passion and energy for sex. Why Journal?Journaling is a way to ground yourself, to make sense of your life, to find meaning in your experiences. Sometimes just holding a pen in your hand and writing ‘I don’t know what to write’ calms you. But what you’re really after is the clarity that flows from truth. No concealed facts, not even half-truths will do. After all, what would be the point?To journal successfully, you therefore make a pact with yourself to be honest. You don’t have to share your musings with anyone else if you don’t want to. Do it for yourself. So here’s the challenge: dig deep, or don’t bother. This is how to do it:Early mornings work bestCreate a time-slot of about 30 minutes in your day - every day - which you set aside for journaling. From my own experience and feedback from many clients over the years, early mornings work best. This is because your analytical left brain hasn’t fired up yet, which gives you better access to your intuitive, creative right brain.If you can’t find a way to fit erotic journaling into your schedule in the mornings, all is not lost. Just give yourself an extra 5 to 10 minutes to settle down, take a few deep belly breaths and do a progressive relaxation exercise to tune into yourself. Progressive relaxation is easy to do. Whilst breathing slowly and deeply, notice your each part of your body in turn Create a safe placeClose your eyes and create a safe place in your mind. It can be anywhere – on a deserted beach, in a forest, on a mountain top, or in a special place of worship. Then imagine all the colours and forms, the sounds, textures, and even the smells and tastes of this special place.Conjure up a mood of harmony and peace. When you feel a sense of all-embracing serenity, open your eyes and put your hand to paper. Tools of the tradeAll you really need is paper and a pencil or a pen, but it’s nice to use a dedicated notebook that has a pleasant feel to it. If you’re that way inclined, any other art materials that can bring an element of colour to your work would be useful. Use your journal freely to record any thoughts, feelings and insights that arise within you.Just as important as your journal is the courage within yourself to be open to new experiences. Don’t limit yourself with thoughts that you can’t write or draw. There’s no parent or teacher standing over you with judgement and a cane. In fact, give yourself permission to make a mess of it. Celebrate the idea of working out your own style through trial and error. The aim is personal growth, not perfection. The section on erotic poetry offers more ideas on how to stretch your imagination. Free Gift8 Miraculous Secrets to Become an Extraordinary LoverWe would love to offer you a free gift, 8 Miraculous Secrets to become an Extraordinary Lover. Please fill out your details below for immediate access to this remarkable information, and feel free to keep browsing.Suggestions for Erotic JournalingGoalsBe clear in your own mind about what you want to explore and what you would like to change. If you don't know where you're going, you can't get there.Here are some examples of goals regarding your sexuality: - I commit to doing daily Kegel exercises for one month; - I learn how to pleasure myself by following the
Directed Masturbation Program.
- I make an appointment with my doctor to get my hormone levels checked. - I work on improving my sex life by exercising three times a week to increase my energy levels; adding Omega-3 fats to my diet; and eating more fruits and vegetables. AffirmationsWrite down your favourite affirmations concerning your health, beauty, self-esteem and relationships. List them all on one page, or make separate pages for each, with decorative borders and designs. Affirmations help you focus on what you want in your life, rather on what you don’t want.Here's an example: 'I am worthy of love from both myself and other people. I do not need to earn love or to prove my worth - I am perfectly lovable just the way I am.' - Christiane Northrup and 'My sexuality is holy and sacred - a gift from the same Source that created the ocean, the waves, and the stars.' - Christiane Northrup Gratitude ListMake a list of all the things that you appreciate about your body, your lover’s body and the experience of sex. Making and adding to this list can really open your awareness to the many riches you may take for granted.Self-Appreciation ListList all the things you like about yourself. Don’t feel guilty – it’s not an ‘ego trip’. The more you are able to acknowledge what is wonderful about you, the happier and more loving you will be.Fantasies ListJot down your ideas, dreams and fantasies to improve your sex life, even if they seem far-fetched or you’re not sure you’ll ever follow through on them. This will help you loosen up and stimulate your imagination.You may find it difficult to find time to work in your erotic journal, but even a few minutes a day, or an hour or two every week, is worth a thousand times your investment in inner growth.
Erotic Journaling ExercisesA good erotic journaling exercise to start with, is to embrace nakedness. You will also find some healing steps to follow in this section if your body image leaves something to be desired.Do the journal exercise on self care if your libido needs a boost due to exhaustion. In contemplating the ultimate sexual encounter, two exercises have been designed to explore your own preferences, fantasies and needs. You'll find them in the section on ultimate satisfaction. Write your own sexy poem in your erotic journal. You will find all the guidance in you need in the section on
erotic poetry.
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