Being Body Wise:Where Better Sex Starts
Are You Feeling Sexy Today?Being Body Wise helps you to create an attitude that oozes sex appeal. One thing that I know for certain is that feeling sexy depends on whether you think you're sexy.
Who cares that you don’t have the perfect body when you have a sparkle in your eyes and a smile on your lips? Who cares about a bit of extra padding around your buttocks when you exude sexual confidence – the kind that only comes from knowing exactly who you are and where you’re going and what you want out of life? And maybe, just maybe, if you stop long enough to think about what life’s all about, you’ll realise that you’re the one holding the key to making the best of it.
Too Tired to Make an Effort?Come on…. Of course you’re tired. We’re all tired. Life’s hectic. I’m not suggesting that any of this is easy. There are so many things that demand our attention these days, not to mention the household, the kids, the career, and oh yes, the man in your life (choose your own order). Still, it’s about taking a new stance - one that oozes vivacity, passion, excitement, kick, energy, soul! A great body image will follow.Besides, what’s the alternative? You’re having sex any way, right? (….even if you’re solo and Mr Buzzy has become your best friend.) My point is, if it’s happening any way, you might as well enjoy it. If you’re wearing underwear anyway, why not switch to something that feels good against your skin? If you’re walking anyway, why not sway your hips a little? It’s all a matter of focus. If you get excited about bringing sexy back (thanks, Mr Timberlake), you’ll find a myriad small ways to live more sensually. Your body language will change, your self-esteem will soar and life will be more fun. Don’t take my word for it. Try it. You can thank me later. Oh, and whatever you do, don't miss the section on self care for a new lease on life. So what’s having a great body image all about?If you care about your relationship, it’s nice to know that you turn your partner on. And having a great body image makes you feel sexy, which is key to having better sex! (How's that for being body wise?)But here’s the thing. Being sexy shouldn’t be for him. It should be for you. Why? Because having a good body image and being sexy feels great! And it all starts with that little phrase coined by Cheryl Richardson and that I’ve come to love... extreme self-care. If you're really struggling with your body image, the following pages may be of great help to you:
Boost your sexual confidenceSkincareFor super-soft, glowing skin, find a moisturiser that you really like and take your time applying it before getting dressed. Body butters are great as they melt at your touch, are instantly lapped up by your skin and smell heavenly.
LingerieFeeling sexy is very much about spoiling yourself - with sexy underwear! Buy something extravagant to wear under your every-day clothes. Lace and satin feel good against your skin. It's guaranteed to make you feel great.Dressing UpBeing body wise is about what you put on your body too. Dress in a way that makes you feel good about yourself and see how your body image blossoms.Wear form-fitting clothes rather than hiding out in comfy sweats. Show off your good features with pride. If you have lovely skin, show more of it with open necklines and sleeveless tops. Wear your hair up to display a lovely, long neck. Great legs? Show you're feeling sexy by wearing high heels. (If you're in need of a secret weapon to turn heads, wear slinky black or fire-engine red!)
JewelleryWear jewelery that excites you. Find colourful, fun, bright and chunky necklaces and bracelets if that suits your style.
Make-upMake the most of your make-up, but keep in mind that subtle gets top marks for feeling sexy. Extend your black eye-liner at an upward angle along the top lashline for sexy, feline eyes. A cream blush with a hint of glimmer looks glamorous. Wear lipgloss.
HairDon't under-estimate the sex appeal of healthy, shiny hair. Use less heat and try non-permanent colours, which work by sealing the cuticles flat. This means more light can reflect on the surface. For voluminous hair the right products are essential. Find a hairdresser you trust and follow her advice.
Perfume
Remember to always wear a hint of perfume. One incredible fragrance can speak volumes about you.
PostureBe aware of your posture. Show a bit of attitude by pulling your shoulders back and lengthening your spine. Not only does it make you look slimmer, it allows your clothes to drape on your body the way they're supposed to.
Body MovesTake notice of how your body moves. Master a confident stride - it oozes self-assurance. When you walk, allow your hips to sway slightly - and take your time. Sign up for dance lessons - you'll gain confidence and move more gracefully. Belly dancing is another way to develop poise. Not only does exercise provide you with the benefits of burning fat and adding muscle, but more importantly, it's a genuine mood and libido elevator. Just get moving, and you'll feel better about yourself and your body.
Body LanguageConfident people mark their territory. Hold your head high and your shoulders back. Make eye-contact and smile. Don't be afraid to flirt - it takes the attention away from your own self-consciousness. Besides, it feels fantastic when the object of your attention flirts back!
Hang around nakedThe more time you spend naked, the more comfortable you become with your body. More importantly, it makes you feel less inhibited when you’re with a man. Sleep naked, watch TV undressed, and when you step out of the shower, wrap that towel around your hair instead of your body.Need a little help in this department? You'll find some important healing steps to take in the page below:
Mood LightingEnsure there's plenty of mood lighting in your bedroom. Buy silk or satin sheets for a taste of true luxury.
Sexy TreatsIndulge your senses with choc-dipped strawberries. It doesn't just taste great, it's good for you too. Strawberries contain vitamin C and dark chocolates oblige with a shot of antioxidants.
Last but not least....Don't sweat the small stuff. You don't have to be perfect to feel sexy. You just have to, well, FEEL it!Real my Q&A interview with Cari Corbet-Owen of Ditch Diets, Live Light for an inspiring message regarding women's body-esteem. And don't miss my article on how a healthy body relates to better sex! You will find 9 simple guidelines for living well. What Men Find SexyIn their shallower moments, a guy may admit that big boobs, your rear end or a great pair of legs is what turns them on. But what strikes me over and over about my conversations with a wide variety of men, is that body shape is much less important to them than your attitude towards yourself.Men love women who are comfortable in their own skin. They don’t like women who are so self-absorbed that their own bodies become the be-all of how they relate to life itself. This is what Eva Mendes has to say about her own journey of body acceptance:
‘When I was younger, I found it hard to communicate with men because I was so insecure. I wanted to change everything about myself and started experimenting with makeup and clothes. Little did I know most guys just like a girl with hardly any makeup! At 22 I met a special guy who told me, ‘You don’t need all that,’ and it was liberating. Now I feel my self-confidence isn’t linked to men.’
Most men will tell you in any case that it is not your body flaws that turn them off - it's your sexual inhibitions. What makes you sexy is your self-confidence and responsiveness in bed. Let’s face it, ladies. We are all flawed, both emotionally and physically. Every day in the therapy room, I’m reminded of how futile the mission is to achieve perfection. So ACT as if you're feeling sexy even if you don't quite feel it yet. Being body wise is guaranteed to fire up your sex life in delightful ways... (From Body Wise) (Back to Better Sex Home Page)
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