Better Orgasms for Women

by Lidia
(South Africa)

Reader Post: 'I feel really sad for women who struggle so much to read orgasm. We read about the 'elusive female orgasm' all the time, but why is it so hard to achieve? After all, the clitoris is meant to give pleasure, so why do women struggle so much to let go and enjoy the moment?

I believe better orgasms for women is possible if women start to take responsibility for their own pleasure. We need to take the initiative - whether it is with solo sex to learn about our own bodies, or in partner sex where we need to teach our partners how to please us. Otherwise, how could they possibly know?

I think sometimes men try to turn us on or stimulate us in a way that worked for previous partners, but since every woman is different, we need to let them know what does and doesn't work for us. It works both ways too... we need to ask our partners how they like to be touched instead of just assuming the same techniques work for all men.

My advice regarding better orgasms for women is to set time aside to explore your body. Really get to know it. Look at it, touch it, enjoy it. If you relax enough, the orgasm will naturally follow.'

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